The donuts are sitting there.  Staring at you.  Suddenly, one is in your mouth.  Then another and another.
Hateful donuts!

As you lick the sugar glaze off your fingers, you declare “it’s not my fault, I have no willpower.”

What a great excuse! If you don’t have any willpower, then it truly isn’t your fault when you give in to sweet/ salty/ snacky/fatty foods.

But here is the catch: thinking that you don’t have willpower is simply a belief that you hold to be true.  And, if you believe you are powerless around food, you’re probably going to keep falling off your health plan.

What if I told you this – Willpower doesn’t exist.  It isn’t something you either HAVE or HAVE NOT.  When a baby is born, the doctor doesn’t take a look and say ‘no willpower in this one – 3rd one this week.’
So, now what?

First, focus on the benefits of the commitments you have made to yourself.  Since we started with donuts, let’s keep that theme going.

Why did you decide to lose weight and be healthier in the first place?  What were the reasons?  What were the goals?  By focusing on your commitment and remembering why you committed in the first place, you have a moment in time – before the donut hits the lips to decide if -your long term success is more - important than this five second reward.

Next, think about what experience you were hoping to gain by eating the donut.  Everything that we do, we do to create an experience for ourselves.  When your hand is reaching out, pause and take a breath.  What does the pause tell you? What are you needing or wanting in that moment?  Is it connection?  Is it energy?         What is it you are seeking?  And in that moment of pausing, that brief moment of choice, think of a healthier solution to create that same experience.

And the last thing – laugh. Aren’t we funny creatures?  We simply, sometimes without thinking, reach for a donut when we KNOW we are going to beat ourselves up five minutes later.  It’s just a habit -ha ha ha.  Lighten up on yourself, don’t be so quick to judge, to blame. Be kind to yourself.  It takes a little time to change the automatic response of reaching for food.  It takes a little time to create a new habit that supports our new vision of ourselves.  Be kind.

There are hiccups on the road to success, only you can decide how long you stay at the rest area.  And that is why Chrysalis was created.

We empower you to live the life you love with a body that doesn’t hold you back by assisting you in determining what is most meaningful to you. Then, we co-design a program for you and support and empower you to remove the obstacles that get in your way.  And, we hold a space of accountability that encourages and
motivates you.

That’s why, this time it will work.